THE 10 COMMANDMENTS IN MAMA’S BIBLE
I have been doing some study lately on the 10 commandments in the book of Exodus, which basically were God’s instructions to the children of Israel, that became a guideline for Christians. I can’t tell how my study translated to 10 commandments in mama’s bible. Ah well, I guess being mama makes me see everything from the perspective of a mother.
Today a new commandment I write to all mothers and soon to be moms out there, take heed to these words, engrave them in your heart, be careful to do all that is written thereof:
- Thou shalt love thy children with all thy heart, all thy might and with all thy soul:
This is the first and most important commandment in mama’s bible, let love be the motive for every action. This one attibute makes mothering easy. I come from a culture where love is shown but seldom spoken. Kids just grow up to know they are loved not because their moms told them so, but I charge you to tell your kids as often as possible you love them. Let it be the last thing you say after your bedtime prayers, whisper “I love you baby”.
- Thou shall be an example in speech and action to thy kiddos:
Do as I say and not as I do will not go well with children. If you want them to be respectful, then be respectful. If you want them to be God-fearing, then be God-fearing yourself! You can’t spend all night long in pubs and expect otherwise from your kindtjes. I noticed my little boy reprimanding the younger sister in the way I usually do and when he is pleased with my actions, I get a “good boy mama“
- Thou shalt provide them with food, cloth, shelter and warmth:
This 3rd commandment will make your kiddos blossom like a rose in thy abode. Those are the basic necessities that kids need to thrive, not the abundance of toys.
- Thou shalt mirror Jesus to them:
Let thy kindtjes see Christ in and through your lifestyle. They will love and serve him in the manner they see you do. Let Christ come real to them through you. The measure with which they see you serve God, is the same measure they will use.
- Thou shalt discipline your lovelies:
Discipline is an act of love, Hebrews 12:6 “For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.”
Use ‘time outs’, ‘cry outs’ and the rod if need be, I wasn’t a firm believer of discipline by the rod, but you know what? It works. Have you read this in scripture? Proverbs 13:24 “Whoever spared the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them”. I had a hard time implementing this form of discipline but a mother’s got to do what she’s got to do.
- Thou shalt invest quality time with thy kids:
Put away every distraction and just savour some great moments with those little ones. I know and I understand there is a lot to run after nowadays, but your kids come first, then other things can follow. Do some activity together, it could be building blocks, fitting puzzles, cooking, cleaning, and playing some game, just any fun thing together.
Thou shalt sing hymns and spiritual songs often:
I absolutely love the hymn times with my kiddos, as young as they are, they love hymns. I love picking up my sacred songs and solos (ss&s)and singing out loud to them. The good thing is, they are so innocent and will enjoy the music even if you go in and out of the key.
- Thou shalt keep falsehood far from thine mouth:
Do not tell lies to your children nor make promises you can’t keep. Children remember a lot more than we think and telling them lies is a quick way of setting them on the way to being liars eventually. Can you remember that aunt/uncle who made a promise they never fulfilled when you were a kid? Children do not forget easily, therefore, be not hasty in making promises.
- Thou shalt bless your children with the words of your mouth:
Bless them when you sit at home, bless them when you go to the park, bless them when you feed them and even when you change stinking diapers. Let no curse proceed out of thy mouth, in anger refrain from gushing out words that will hurt your little one.
- Thou shalt not COMPARE thy kids to another woman’s kids, or even compare two siblings:
I could write a book about this 10th commandment, comparison, comparison, well I will save it for another day.
Your child is unique, treat them as such. Do not compel him/her to fit into another’s shoes.
Thou shalt lay down rules and set boundaries.
Let your no be no and your yes be yes!
Never give in to tantrums lest it becomes a way of life. Children are smarter than what we think, my little girl played a fast one on me lately. She wants to carried 24/7, I probably gave in one day and now she’s turned it into a habit. NEVER give in to tantrums!
Finally, TEACH them the word of God! Deuteronomy 6:7 “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up”
There are a number of commandments that should be included here, but I will keep those for another time.
Remain blessed and enjoy being Mama.